Mom's Crib vs. the Dorms
Is living in dorms essential? We say: yes, almost always.
I'm a freshman in college. During my junior year and the beginning of my senior year of high school, I wasn't interested in going out of state for college. I finally decided on a local school, commuting about 30 minutes to campus. Over the summer, we moved closer and now I am about 10 minutes away from campus, still living with my mom. I'm starting to regret the decision of staying at home.
I like my school a lot, but I am struggling with the idea that I would have more friends and freedom if I were in the dorms. I don't think it's terribly reasonable to move into the dorms when my mom lives so close and I just got settled in my new room. I love my room, it's huge and I've just painted it blue, red, and gold and I have my own bathroom, etc (So dorms would be a downgrade, but probably worth it for the friends?). I like my house, I get to keep my dogs and have a nice backyard. However, I can't help but feel torn.
I have a few friends who live in the dorms but whose families are only 45 minutes away and I almost wish that that was me, that we still lived in our old house so that I could be near home and friends, but not living there. I've considered transferring but I have a few friends and I love the Christian Student Center on campus and don't want to reacquaint myself with another school. I also got $4000 back from scholarships that would have been spent on housing, which is a nice bonus. All this aside, I keep thinking moving into the dorms would have been a better choice!
One of the biggest issues, I guess, is feeling involved and getting to experience the whole college life thing. Living at home, it really does just feel like the 13th grade. What can I do to fix this situation and "experience" college?
Sparkler, we say you should definitely move into the dorms. Yes, it's convenient to live at home (and having your bathroom sounds amazing!), but you're right: by staying with your mom, you're missing out on an essential aspect of college life. Only by living in the dorms can you spend real quality time with your friends, practice being independent, and, perhaps most importantly, have some of the best, craziest fun you'll ever have.
Do you agree with us? Should this Sparkler start packing?