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How can I say that if you are white, your opinions on racism are most likely ignorant, when I don't even know you? I can say so because nothing in mainstream US culture gives us the information we need to have the nuanced understanding of arguably the most complex and enduring social dynamic of the last several hundred years.

In Chapter 1, DiAngelo argues that we are all born into a society imbued with institutionalized racism. We are bombarded with racist imagery and ideas from the moment we become cognitive beings. Thus, all white people in the United States are capable of racism, even if they do not believe themselves to be active racists. White progressives may balk or take extreme umbrage with this fact. They may become defensive in the very act of reading this book. Reading the book may in fact trigger their titular white fragility. But DiAngelo posits that even these white progressives have been immersed and inculcated into societal racism. It is therefore unavoidable. What is avoidable however is giving in to the pressures of societal racism. White people, and especially the white reader, can and should take the time to identify their racism. This is the only way we as a society can begin to dismantle white fragility.

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If your understanding of the cage is based on this myopic view, you may not understand why the bird doesn't just go around the single wire and fly away. You might even assume that the bird liked or chose its place in the cage.

In Chapter 2, DiAngelo invokes scholar Marilyn Frye’s metaphor of a birdcage to describe the forces of oppression. Frye says that if you press your face against a birdcage’s wires, you will no longer see the wires and will only see the bird. If you look to the side, you will see one wire. Confused as to why the bird doesn’t walk around the one wire, you might believe it wants to be there. Frye likens white people to the person standing up close to the birdcage who is unable to perceive how people of color are affected by institutional racism day in and day out. White people may see or identify an isolated event, but they are unable to see the larger picture that the event is part of something that is seeded into their culture and society. If they could just back up and see the rest of the wires around the cage, they would see the bigger forces affecting people of color in the United States. They would see the interlocking patterns  that work to keep the bird in place. They instead fall into complacency and assume everything is normal and that everybody is happy with their position and treatment within societal norms. Racism can be difficult for white people to recognize because they have a limited worldview and a lack of self-perception.

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I am often asked if I think the younger generation is less racist. No, I don't. In some ways, racism's adaptations over time are more sinister than concrete rules such as Jim Crow.

In Chapter 3, DiAngelo refutes a common assumption that young people today are less racist than before. She cites that white children develop a sense of racial superiority by the time they are in preschool. Over time, they learn to edit their racist behavior in the presence of a white adult, but they will actively perpetuate it when the adult is not present. She also notes that millennials are constantly reinforced with racist ideas. White millennials are taught by their society to act “nice” in front of people of color, but they may still engage in racist jokes when they are not. White solidarity forms, and in this paradigm white people may punish other white people for calling out racist acts. They are told they are “too sensitive” or “no fun,” and they lose social standing. Thus, racism today only seems less prevalent because it has simply changed form.

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It is a messy, lifelong process, but one that is necessary to align my professed values with my real actions. It is also deeply compelling and transformative.

In Chapter 12, DiAngelo relays this thought n the book’s final lines. She notes that neither being an antiracist educator nor working on her own white fragility are clean or easy tasks. She uses the final chapter to acknowledge her own biases as a white woman despite her position as an antiracist educator and researcher. Working against racism is a lifelong process. White people in particular are never completely free of their white fragility. As demonstrated, even someone like DiAngelo is capable of racist acts or inappropriate comments about Black women’s hair. But she can step back, breath, and examine her behaviors and their consequences on others and on herself. She hopes white readers may use her example to understand that dismantling white fragility is a worthwhile, transformative experience. And more importantly, she hopes that white readers can take what they have learned and put it into daily practice in service of dismantling white fragility.