Auntie SparkNotes: Will I Get Another Chance to Kiss Him?

Hey Auntie!

So, there is this guy that I really like and he likes me (I’ll call him Ed). So there was a girl’s choice dance and I asked him to it and all night we were all cutesy and stuff and then my friend told me that she thought he was going to try to kiss me and I started freaking out. I haven’t ever been kissed and I have no idea how to kiss and so I was scared. Anyway, when we were saying goodbye, we were hugging (It was a really long hug and his hugs are just the best) and then we pulled away and just kind of looked at each other and he started leaning in and so I leaned in, just back into the hug, and I just went farther than he did quicker than he did, and it worked well because he’s a lot taller than me (It was actually a really successful dodge. I’m a little ashamed to say that I’m proud of it).

Then, a couple weeks later, Ed asked me out on a date and it was a lot of fun. We held hands and cuddled and it was just great. I realized that I do really like him and that I really like being around him. He drove me home and walked me to my door.

It was almost midnight, there were stars, it was cold and he had his arm around me and it would have been the perfect first kiss, but, surprise surprise! I freaked out. His arms were around me and we were facing each other. We were looking straight into each other’s eyes and he started to lean in. So, I decided that I would repeat what I did last time because it worked pretty well. But, apparently, he really wanted to kiss me this time because he put his hand on my face and propped my chin up and started leaning in again. His lips were right there in front of mine-split seconds away—and then, I turned my head and his lips landed on my cheek.

For a second, he stayed there and moved his mouth back in front of mine, almost like he was waiting, and said, “Is that all?” I was too scared to do or say anything and then he moved away and I found myself really wanting to kiss him. “It’s okay. Save it for someone special.” He said, and then all of a sudden his arms weren’t around me and he was walking down my steps. I yelled goodnight and then walked inside, kicking myself.

I texted him and told him to call me when he got home and so when he did, I told him that I wanted to kiss him and that I like him, I just freaked out. He took it well, then said, “It’s perfectly fine.” and then ended the conversation with, “I’ll see you at school on Monday.”

Am I a complete jerk? Do you think I’ll get another chance to kiss him?

This is going to be the shortest advice column in the history of advice columns.

Because not only can I virtually guarantee that you’ll get another chance, Sparkler, I’d bet just about anything that you already did. In fact, in the weeks between you sending this letter and my getting around to answering it, I’ll wager that you and Mr. Ed have not just kissed, but that you’ve done it A LOT MORE THAN ONCE.

Which means that you probably don’t require advice so much as congratulations. Well done, you.

But to answer your other question: Are you a complete jerk? Obviously, no, of course not. You were, at most, a very teeny tiny little bit of a jerk—and that’s just because it’s not nice to humiliate a guy who’s made himself vulnerable to you, even if humiliating him wasn’t your primary intention. Your slick dodge was his confusing mega-embarrassment, and you did it twice, which is probably one more time than you necessarily should have. But that’s okay: you realized your mistake, and you used your words to resolve the situation, which was exactly the right thing to do. (And hopefully didn’t pull that same move on him a third time, because… well, yeah, that would make you a jerk. Sorry. But you didn’t, right? Of course you didn’t.)

And now that you’ve gotten over that awkward bump in the road, and gotten your feelings out in the open, there’s nothing left for you to do but enjoy the results of your bravery. Which I’m sure you are. Happy smooching.

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